Conversations with Fear

Women: March 11, 2002 >

     "It's March 11, 2002, my wife, Zane's, birthday. And I find myself thinking about the wonderful gift she has given me over the years. I say gift, because I had been thoroughly indoctrinated at home, in school, and later at work to believe that women were lesser than men—fundamentally sex objects that all had "head problems" due to their emotions. I am, however, eternally grateful to Zane who helped me to grow beyond myself as society had molded me to see what women really are—delightfully different in the ways they think and feel and equal as human beings.
     "Hey," came Fear's uninvited voice.
     "What's wrong now?" I asked.
     "Your thinking, of course. You're exposing the inner workings of patriarchy to the world! Have you no concept of how many centuries it took me to eradicate the feminine voice—the goddess—from the social systems of the world?"
     "How would I know how long you've labored to skew society toward its male domination. What's more, I don't care. Besides, what right do you have to snoop into my thoughts anyway?"
     "What right?" snapped Fear. "My right by your letting your guard down. As I've told you, vigilance is necessary to thwart me! Anyway, that's beside the point. If women become equal with men, especially if they operate out of their femininity, what will happen to war? What will happen to the cut-throat competition I so enjoy? What will happen to hatred and violence? What will happen to leadership? What will happen to, to . . . well, any number of things I find necessary?"
     "Leadership will definitely improve," I said. "I'd love to experience a woman president in my lifetime. As for your other questions, the likelihood of war will greatly diminish. Competition will be moderated with cooperation and coordination. Hatred and violence will be greatly softened and perhaps largely disappear."
     "But you're undermining everything I've worked so long to achieve! How can you—a man, a male—do such a thing? How can you even think of such a thing? Why are you challenging the patriarchy anyway? After all, you're by birth one of the 'rulers,' one of the elite."
     "Because," I replied, "my purpose is to point out that the only way we'll ever control the world's population is to give women equality—real equality. And if we, the men of the world, don't give them equality, it's because we're terrified of sharing power, of sharing control of our joint destiny.
     "As for ruling, I'm not interested, and if I were, I'm not wise enough. Beyond that, my birth as a male is an act of God, and has nothing to do with my value as a person."
     "You traitor!"
     "Why am I a traitor, because I have learned there is need for a balance between men and women, between the masculine and the feminine in each of us?" I asked.
     "But I want the world unbalanced." said Fear. "I need more recruits! What happens to me if women are given equality?"
     "You may want more 'recruits,' as you call them," I conceded, "but many women in this male-dominated world live in fear of life itself because of the way they're treated. Why should it be a curse to so many of the world's children to be born girls?"
     "I needn't answer that! It just is, that's all."
     "As seems to happen with you fairly often, I don't think we're getting anywhere with this conversation," I observed. "You're uncomfortable with it, aren't you?"
     "We're not, and we won't," agreed Fear, ignoring my question, "because it's a male dominated world—according to my design—and it'll stay that way as long as I'm in charge. And I am in charge! That's why woman are subjugated by such male authorities as religious leaders the world over." With that, Fear faded into the neverland, as it usually does when confronted by an idea it can't handle, and there seem to be many of them.

     An excellent example of the different feeling conveyed in language between the masculine and the feminine can be found by reading As A Man Thinketh, by James Allen (1981. Grosset & Dunlap, New York, NY.) and As A Woman Thinketh, by Dorothy J. Hulst (1991. DeVorss & Co., Publishers, Marina Del Rey, CA.)

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